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Characteristics of a really good listener

1) They care.
Their sincerity drives all their behavior. They don’t just make eye contact, they make heart contact.

2) They put your speaking, thinking, and feeling needs first.
They don’t steal your punchline or change the topic. They don’t tell you what to do. They don’t judge.

3) They’re curious and enjoy learning new perspectives.
This helps them improve.

To Listen

To listen

Is to allow someone to exhale as the tears roll down their face.
Is to hear the notes before they become a song.
Is to gently say, “Go on…”
Is to read someone’s message in a bottle.
Is to be soundtrack to someone’s movie.
Is to ask good story questions.
Is to be silent.
Is to put someone else’s speaking, thinking, feeling needs first.
Is to be human to someone else’s story.
Is to allow someone to be heard.

Movies and Listening

Movies and listening are both forms of human communication. This leads to some interesting insights. See how that works out when you're listening to a grieving person in my guest blog on Karen Kaplan's Offbeatcompassion blog:


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